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Thursday night my roommate and I threw a party.

We invited 20 of our closest friends, and their significant others.

All was going great until about 2am, it was then that I opened my bathroom door, and saw the boyfriend of my closest friend sitting on the side of the bathtub with a needle in his arm!

I went ballistic!!

I raised hell, and ended up physically throwing his ass out.

Now, just so ya'll know, I had a dear friend, Chastity, die from an overdose about 4 years ago, and all of my friends know that, and they know how strongly I feel about needle dope.

I am the type who doesn't judge my friends for their drug choices, but cannot, and will not, ever accept the use of needles in my presence, or in my home!

They all know that, yet my friend is now pissed at me for throwing her boyfriend out, and for cursing him, even though she knows how I feel, and why.

Now I'm wondering, in light of her reaction, if she ever really was my friend at all.

If she was, wouldn't she be more supportive of my feelings, and of my reaction to the situation, even if it was her boyfriend?

Also, knowing my feelings, shouldn't she have told her boyfriend to either refrain from shooting up in my house, or just not go?

Or, do ya'll think I was wrong, and should have kept my mouth shut, and let it slide? :confused:
 

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I have a friend whose uncle died from a heroine addiction, and he felt really strong about it. I would've done the same thing you did at the moment, but that doesn't mean it was right. Maybe you could've kept you're mouth shut, and you could've explained the whole situation to your friend later. Sometimes boyfriends/girlfriends can manipulate the way their partners think, this could've been the case for your friend. The bottom line is, she should've handled it better and you should've kept your mouth shut and explained it later...I know it was really hard to let it slip, so it wasn't your fault. I have a strong opposition against dope, so I have your back on this one.
 

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I would've done the same. The only thing I'd have done different would be to not come on a forum afterwards and rant about it. I would've just went to bed, and continued with my usual life like nothing happened. Then I would've went to a mirror, stripped nude, and played with my boobs and crotch, cuz I'd have a female body. Sweet.
But yeah, don't get hung up on things. Just act upset towards your friend for a while so she knows she's in the wrong, then once she apologizes, get back to the normal swing of things. If she ignores your feelings, screw her. Obviously wasn't much of a friend in the first place then.
 

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I don't blame you for not wanting drugs in your house. Your house, your rules. I suppose it really depends how you carried on about it though, you could have asked him nicely to leave straight away and then kept your little discovery to yourself or you could have yelled and screamed and announced your discovery to the whole damn neighborhood. If it was the latter, I don't blame your friend for being shit off with you.
 

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I don't see anything wrong with the actions you made. You obviously don't like the needle anywhere near you. Your friend should have respected your feelings about it, and supported you once you decided to throw out her boyfriend. She should be able to know how you truly feel. Based on how she's defending her boyfriend, I'd say she's no friend at all. Leave her and move on.
 

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Don't feel bad dude, I would of probably kicked the guys ass instead, if he wanted to get stone I would of beat some sense into him-that is what he needed-besides she is a woman she will eventually get over it or she won't and if she doesn't she is not a friend-good friend always forgive and forget-stay positive.
 

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Sometimes boyfriends/girlfriends can manipulate the way their partners think, this could've been the case for your friend.
....excellent point.

anyway, it was your place and you can do whatever. a better statement of your feelings towards needles would have been taking it from him and sticking him in the eye with it.
personally, i hate needle freaks and havent ever allowed them to use around me. i would have reacted similiar to how you did.
 

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I would've done the same exact thing. I know people who do that all over my house. Drug abuse like that should never be accepted. If your friend can't except that, they should go away. I wouldn't be mad at the dude that much, because he might not know how you feel.
 

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you did not go to far i had 2 uncles die from drug overdoses and anytime i go to a party and see needles or someone using them i freak out.I would of done the samething if i was in ur shoes
 
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I don't know anyone that has ever had a heroin addiction. I know people who've taken every other drug, but not heroin by injection. It's a filthy drug and a disgusting one. I wouldn't keep company with anyone who used it, more so than any other narcotic.
 

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Either way anyone slices it, it happened under your roof, so you have the say on what ramifacations are to be had. There's no faulting you on any decision you chose to make. So don't feel as if you're the bad guy.

Dumbass should know better anyway.
 

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I think the way you reacted was just fine. If they really are your friends, then they must know how you feel about needling. It was under your roof and they KNEW it was something that you don't condone, they should have had the sense enough to respect you and not do it. Or at least not while they were at your place anyway. I'd say your reaction was abolutely justified, and I wouldv'e done the exact same thing.
 

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Thanks for replying and for your honesty guys.
Your thoughts on the matter helped a lot, now that I know most would've done the same, or worse in some cases, I don't feel so bad about my reaction. :)


As it now stands, my friend and I are not speaking.
She says he {the prick}, was aware of my feelings, but he doesn't see the "big deal", and she {dumbass}, apparently agrees.
Therefore, I've decided she was never a friend to begin with, obviously, and is not worth my time, or my energy.
So, unless she takes it upon herself to apologize and renew the friendship, I am simply writing her off as a friend.

That may sound awful of me, but I truly have no time, or patience, for people that self-centered, and disrespectful in my life.
I have much better things to do with my time, and decent, non-needling friends to do them with. :agree:
 

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^^^In a few weeks/months, she'll break up with the guy and come back to you apologizing. It's pathetic, I know, but I've actually been in your shoes when it comes to this situation. When she does come back to you, ignore it, she'll just do it again. I know, it happened to me. She did it once, she'll have no problem doing it again because she knows she can rely on you to forgive her when the bad influence (her boyfriend) is no longer in the picture. As for the situation, I don't blame you at all for throwing him out. Personally, I would've made sure to knock the needle away from him before grabbing him, since he could be carrying diseases and accidentally/purposefully stick you with the needle. Try not to lose any sleep over this, man, you're all good.

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Thanks shamrock, now that I think about it you're probably right, and I'm probably better off not even getting involved with someone like that again.
If she can forsake her values, and turn her back on friends for this guy, she'd more than likely do the same for the next guy.
You've definitley given me something to consider in that respect.
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you totally did the right thing
you have jurisdiction under what goes on in your home and you dont want drugs so no one should take drugs especially after what happened to your friend.
also if he left the needle behind someone couldve found it and then you wouldve been in huge trouble
 
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