I think as far as sex is concerned you gotta have good communication.
Don't be afraid to tell each other if something doesn't feel good, but to the same token, if something feels awesome, let them know
Edit: oh yeah, and food can be fun sometimes
Communication is super important.
I've always found food to be unsanitary. It's just my own thing though, my husband makes fun of me about it all the time.
I'm sure pleasurable moaning, them squeezing your arms, scratching your back or even saying 'Yeah, right there' is a good sign. Juss sayin'. If you're sweatin' it out and they're reading Cosmo, you might be doing something wrong. Unless they're looking up sex positions, which Cosmo offers.
TBH though not necessarily, a lot of the time I'll just fake it to get a guy to hurry up and get the fuck off of me because I'm bored or have other shit to do. It's important to talk about sex afterwards and beforehand and at random times not in the bedroom as well.
I'm open myself, granted I didn't know if bringing out all kinds of personal stuff would generate some form of a reaction. Not like I cared before and this is rants, so what the hell.
Honestly, she was fine. Nothing on the psychological problems outside of nymphomania. Like seriously, she had a problem with that. Which made the lack of going down on her baffling. And she was open to anal too. You hear that. Talk about the general opposite with most dames. I'd say I've have more traumatizing experiences than she had. All she had was being obsessive with sex and willing to do it with anyone - guy or girl. Lucky me that she was committed during the relationship only to me.
Not liking oral is normal, I never liked it either. At least, not receiving it.
And I went through a period where I was okay with anal. Although that was during my incredibly slutty mostly for attention period. Still. Every girl is different. And even more confusingly, we change constantly, so shit that turns us on at one point might totally revolt us a year later.
It sounds like she might have had some kind of traumatic experience that she may just not have told you about, or possibly some kind of self-esteem problem where she subconsciously equated sexual desire with self-worth in her head. It's a normal chick thing, especially for younger women. She may not have known it at the time. She still may not know it. A lot of women have body issues or other self-esteem issues and don't have the terminology or tools to figure out what their issue is so they instead make a subconscious decision to measure their self-worth in terms of their sexual attractiveness to men or their sexual experience or some other unhealthy scale like that.
There's nothing you can do to fix it, when a girl gets all twisted up in her head like that the more you tell her she's beautiful the more it twists her up, so until she gets actual real help you might as well just enjoy the sex, really.