Heel Turn on James Ellsworth
Join Date: Aug 2004
Location: A house
Re: Should i ask this chick out ?
Who cares if she has a boyfriend, if there is no ring on the finger she's still fair game bro. At least that's the rules I live by. Boyfriend to me is just that, a friend who happens to be a boy, who may or may not be getting into her pants, why can't you be doing the same, he hasn't given her a ring, he doesn't own her.
Now as for what to do to get into her pants; seeing as how you seem to be a little nervous start off by joking around with her at work, doing goofy things to make her laugh, even if you're not the best looking guy which I've never claimed to be making a girl laugh will almost always attract her to you in some way. You're a funny guy on here, develop that out in the real world with her.
After a while ask for her number, if you've talked to her before asking it's just going to come off as a friend asking for a friends number, that's okay, it's good. Talk to her quite a bit, 4-5 times a week I'd say to start, so she feels comfortable talking to you. Chances are eventually she'll need a male's advice when she has problems with her boyfriend. Listen, BUT NEVER, EVER CALL HER BOYFRIEND NAMES, OR TALK BAD ABOUT HIM! NEVER! When things get sorted out with them you don't want her to think of you as the guy who shit talked her boyfriend, you want her to think of you as the guy who helped her through the situation.
It might take a few months, and she won't realize it at the beginning but what you've been doing is showing her you're a good guy who will listen to her, and thinks about her problems before your own. In the long run that'll go a long way, especially if you listen to her talk about her boyfriend problems 3 or 4 times.
There will be a time when she will see you as a good guy and want to have sex with you, if you played your cards right.
Just remember these few things:
Calling her boyfriend names = no pussy
down talking her boyfriend = no pussy
however when she says "My boyfriend is an asshole blah blah blah, he did this" it is acceptable to say:
That's terrible, I can't believe he did it.
I'm your friend and I'm 100% on your side.
I'm not going to say anything bad about him, but you deserve to be treated better.
Things like that will show her you really care, or at least she'll feel like you do.
This method got me laid for the bit of the year, then I overplayed my cards and got into a relationship with one that all I wanted to do was to have sex with, ended up using the "L" word (never fall for a girl who was supposed to be nothing more then a booty call, never works out). If it isn't a booty call you're after and you just want to take her from her boyfriend this ethod still does work, just know what you want and talk accordingly.
Resident Love Advice Machine,
Last edited by CBR; 11-01-2011 at 07:41 PM.