I don't see why you need time to think anything over, seems pretty damn obvious to me what to do. Forget about the ex, that sounds like a horrible choice all-around. What you need to do is tell the chick you've only been seeing for less than 3 months she needs to hit the damn breaks. Already talking about kids? Fucking hell. If she doesn't like it then you're better off cutting ties and looking elsewhere (NOT THE EX-GIRLFRIEND).
See I know it seems quick to a lot of people, but with our core group of friends, everybody had a child early in their relationship, my best friend and his girlfriend got pregnant 2 weeks into their relationship, 2 of my friends waited like 2 months and the other guys actually lasted 5 months I think before they got pregnant. I've known this girl for 4 years, the one I'm with now, she knew everything that went on with my ex, she was really my shoulder to lean on for those 6 months I guess you can say. I never did anything with her while I was with my ex, but she knew about the other girls, and as soon as I broke up with my ex, I think like 3 days after she told me about her feelings, we talked about it for like a week and decided it was worth giving it a shot, I told her I'd never cheat on her and I meant it.
So maybe things could work out, but she needs to understand where I am in my life, I don't have time for a child right now. I'm interested in getting out there and having fun, getting drunk on the weekends I see how my friends with kids are, they can hardly ever come out and enjoy themselves and right now I don't want to become like that. I'm young, still a little immature I think in the sense I'd rather have fun with my girlfriend and not have to have the burden of responsibility of a child right now.
If you really need to ask what to do in this situation, you're a fucking idiot.
It's quite clear that the ex is a fucking loser who is just saying what you want to hear to she can take you for another ride. She cheated before, she is cheating now, she will cheat again.
Bitch has AIDS, keep the clean, new girl.
It's not like she was the only one cheating, I was heating too. I was cheating because to me there was no trust in the relationship. How could I trust somebody who got with me while they were with somebody else, or took me on an emotional roller coaster ride for 12 months (we dated for 6 but were a thing for a year) you know telling me she wanted to be with me, then we needed to be friends cause she was happy with her boyfriend, then she wanted me, then she loved somebody else, then she hated all guys, then she loved me, she wanted to be with me, I was the one for her, then we needed to be friends, and it all got to the point where it became too much for me and after knowing her for 4 months I was sleeping with other girls. From day one of our relationship we both cheated on the other,
and we both knew it, but we cared about each other and we knew we had each other at the end of the day, and that's what's going through my mind right now is the fact she really was my first love, as fucked up as it sounds, the relationship had so many bumps and unnecessary hurdles to overcome and I felt we did over come them.
Part of me wants to give her another chance because these are things I've never heard from her before, I've never heard her tell me I was the one she wanted to be with forever, it was always I was the one she wanted to be with right now because we both weren't mature enough to realize what we were doing to the other one was wrong, no matter if at the end of the day, after sleeping with somebody else we went home to see each other, and part of me feels I owe it to myself and to her to at least give her another try.
And yes I know people on here are going to think I'm being naive, or an idiot in believing anything she has to say, but she's apologized for cheating on me, and for putting me on that roller coaster and I do believe that she wants to give it an honest chance this time.
But I just don't know if it's worth giving up what I have with the other girl to give her a second chance.
Rereading that post, I think I answered my own question. (highlighted the part that answered my question so people don't think I'm gonna go back to my ex)