Re: When everything is going right...
I'm a girl, so maybe I can give a different perspective.
First of all, do NOT get back together with your ex. 'Once a cheater, always a cheater' is something girls throw around a lot, but I personally think people cheat when they don't get what they need from their partner (physically, sexually, emotionally or all of the above). Unless someone is doing it because they want to be seen as some kind of player, cheating generally boils down to being unhappy with some aspect of a relationship. You were clearly both not right for each other if you both cheated. Never get back with a girl who has repeatedly cheated on you, or you have cheated on repeatedly. It almost never ends well. You said yourself that your breakup was bad.
As for your current girlfriend, she has no right to pressure you into being her baby daddy. Girls get clucky. I'm not stereotyping - I never cared about having kids until I turned about 24 and now I'm freaking out at the idea of never having kids, even though I'm not ready to have them - it really does happen, sometimes out of the blue It's not a great feeling for anyone involved. Maybe (if you can be bothered, I know this is a 'girly' suggestion) sit down and write a pro/con list with her input. Write down her pros (should be a short list), then write down the cons, like: you've only been dating a short while and can't be sure the relationship will last under the strain of pregnancy/child-rearing, you aren't in a secure position at work (if true), you're not financially stable, you don't own your own home/your lease isn't up for long and it's harder to find a home with a baby, you're not ready to be a father and so on and so forth.
My friend had the same problem with his ex. She desperately wanted a kid despite their low income, her being at university, their constant arguing and his total lack of wanting to have one. He ended up having to break up with her. It was a good thing he didn't give in, he had to take the dog she had begged him to get and he would have wound up with the kid probably, too. She's now married, about two years on. She was going to get married and have a baby no matter what. Some women are like that.
If she won't see reason, I'd be worried she'd start tampering with your birth control personally, but maybe that's kind of paranoid.
Thanks for everything, EDGE.
Christian's AGE OF AWESOMENESS begins!
Last edited by ZombieSham; 10-29-2011 at 10:27 PM.