Originally Posted by Priceless Blaze
Well no honestly first time I ever asked that its just the few times we have a fight we try to stop it and one of us say we don't wanna break up over this for the other to say we're not gonna break up.
Like I said the texting thing is just what broke me. I've put her with some of the things for awhile now that she tries to get away with that I don't so its like after awhile you just gotta speak up and not take the crap anymore
Yeah okay true but this love you thing has only started the last month so has the whole getting mad at me over stuff that I do that she does also. So this last month has been rocky.
1st things first, stop mentioning breaking up. Breaking up should only be brought up if it's something that you want or if it's something you are resigned to as being the right course of action. Asking about breaking up changes standard arguments into deal breakers. Fights are normal. Every couple have them. You have to accept that it is going to be part of the relationship and forcefully stop yourself from bringing the relationship as a whole into the situation just because you guys are fighting over coming home late etc. Not every fight means there is a problem with your relationship. If you do one thing - it should be not to bring up this any more. If she asks you, you're answer should be "Of course not, why would you ask that?"
Pick your arguments. I understand that you "snapped" as such, but if you are going to start an argument try and make sure you are starting the right argument. You talk like this was the straw that broke the Blaze's back...you need to get this shit off your chest before all it takes is one straw. If there are genuine problems - address them. Address them calmly and in the right situation. Know what you're going to say beforehand so that you don't have a case of verbal diarrhea and end up causes more trouble than there was to start with. You want to be in a position where there's no chance of a little thing pushing you over the edge.
Like I said - the best thing you can do is sit down and chat about how both of you feel. If I can be as gay as a teddy bear's rainbow for a moment - you need to tell her not what annoys you, but how stuff makes you feel. Don't accuse. Don't be angry. Explain how things frustrate you, or upset you, not how they piss you off or make you angry. This isn't about anyone doing anything wrong, it's about compromising so that you're both happy.
Again, I wish you the best of luck.