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**BreakTheWalls** · 09-27-2008, 01:52 PM

I'm in a relationship that I don't want to be in, but I'm not sure why. We've only been going out close to two months, and this feeling has just come over me within the past week. The girl I'm with is a great person. She's gorgeous, funny, gets my sense of humor, and accepts me for who I am. She's a little ditzy, but there's a difference between being ditzy and being stupid. She's not the latter, so I don't mind at all. The bottom line is, I should be more than happy. I should feel like I'm set, but I don't. Sometimes when we're spending time together alone, I find myself not wanting to hang out for as long as she does. When she's gone, I don't miss her as much as I feel I should, and I know she truly misses me. I just feel like I'm not as into it as she is, and I don't think it's fair to her to keep this going.

I know that not every relationship is supposed to be viewed as one's last; that would be totally unreasonable. I've never been the one to toss the word love around. As a matter of fact, I've never said those words to a girl (besides family, obviously) unless I was kidding around with one of my female friends. I know that she's not going to be that girl. She's a good person and treats me really well, but I just don't feel it. It makes me feel like a horrible person, though. I know this is going to come as a huge surprise to her, and she's the kind of girl who, regardless of what I say, won't believe that it's not her fault. It really isn't, though. I feel like crap.

**McQueen** · 09-27-2008, 01:54 PM

Send her my way buddy.

Seriously, that sucks though, you gonna have to do the "its not you its me" line and she'll cry. But sadly life is too short and if you do feel that way it is best for you to move on.

**Porn Freak** · 09-27-2008, 02:46 PM

I am no relationship expert. I have never been in one. But in my opinion, you should try to work it out first. She sounds like a good girl and she loves you. I just wouldn't rush into a decision on the future just yet. You never know, you might regret it in the long run. Maybe even talk to her about your feelings. If you two can work it out together, maybe it will make the relationship stronger. I just wouldn't rush with ending the relationship just yet. Give it a few weeks and see if you can work it out. If you can't, just move on. Just tell her it's not her fault and it's more of you than it is her. I think she will understand. I hope everthing works out for you and her. Good luck.

**CM Dealer** · 09-27-2008, 03:28 PM

I'm not a relationship expert either, but I agree that you should try to work it out. She sounds like a great girl, and you often don't realize how great something is until its gone.

**xLexie** · 09-27-2008, 03:31 PM

When you do break up with her, its likely she'll cry and ask you "why" you did it.

**Forum B!tch** · 09-27-2008, 03:54 PM

Wow, it's funny you mention this sort of situation because I've had things on my mind about my relationship. Sorry to hear about it. I hope my story here makes you at least feel a bit better.

I'm in a common law relationship. We've been together for 5 years. It's my first relationship. Things have been a bit rocky here and there. It's the usual relationship stuff but within the past year, I've started to get fed up with things.

We have no kids. We have two dogs and a cat, which are basically our kids, for now. To be blunt, we're basically on the bottom of his list of important things. The internet, sports and work come first on his list.

We work different shifts at the same place (different departments). I work 7AM-330PM and he works from 3PM-whenever they finish (usually around midnight) so on a daily basis, I see him for about 60 seconds in the morning when I am waking up to go to work and he is going to bed and when I am leaving to go home after work, I walk by and say bye to him. I call him every single day at the time he wakes up for work to say hi and see how he is doing. He sometimes calls in the evening to say hi.

When he gets home, he sits on the internet the entire time on all his sports websites. Fine, whatever, I'm sleeping anyways. Weekends, he makes absolutely NO EFFORT to spend much time together and actually DO SOMETHING. Sorry, I'm a fun person and don't enjoy sitting around here all day. I love to go out and have a great time. You only live once and I don't want to live on a couch. When I was on midnight shift last year during the last 4 months of the year, I changed my sleeping pattern on Fridays so I would come home in the morning from work and stay up all day so I could sleep Friday night and get up Saturday morning to ensure we could spend time together and do things like people in a normal relationship do. I would again sleep Saturday night and stay up until 4PM Sunday afternoon. I would them sleep until 10PM, get up and go to work, which started at 1130PM.

We both want kids (or so he says he wants some) yet he doesn't even make an effort to make kids because the fucking internet is obviously more important. Then, he'll be a moron and say "we did it the other day". Uh, yeah dummy, it usually takes more than one time to have a kid.

Anyways, I have a conversation with him...oh, about 15 minutes ago and tell him in a mature way exactly what is on my mind. He gets mad, as usual, because he can't take it when someone points out his faults. He went to bed at 730AM this morning and woke up at 3PM. That is fucking ridiculous. I told him that we pretty have don't have a relationship because he chooses other things over his family (myself and the pets) and he basically doesn't care. I can honestly tell you that if he was dealing with someone else, she would have left him years ago but I put up with a lot of shit because I love him and care a lot about him, regardless of the amount of tears he brings and the verbal crap he like to throw at me. I have anxiety disorder and he loves to throw that in my face a lot. I haven't had to take my pills for years and it was hard bringing myself to this point but he still likes to tell me "why don't you go take a pill you psycho" (so I guess you're a lunatic because you get panic attacks. Who knew?) He also doesn't help me with anything. He wont even fathom doing laundry, he'll leave his dishes all over the place when he could just take a second to open up the dishwasher and put it in, he wont vaccuum, if the garbage is full, he wont walk 15 steps around the corner in the hall to throw it out, he'll just get a grocery bag, which we are supposed to be using them to clean up after our dogs when we take them out, put the garbage in and leave it lying around. I lost count of how many times I've cleaned for 5-6 hours on a Sunday while he sits on his ass watching TV and on the net. Two people live here so both people should be doing something. I'm not his fucking slave.

I know it's hard to believe after reading all of that but he's a general nice person, he just has a short fuse and seems to forget what should be important to him. I ALWAYS put family first. He's obsessed with fucking yahoo fantasy sports and "studies" players all day long. I can't even talk to him about things because he gets upset and leaves for a while.

I just can't believe someone can say such things about their own family. It's pretty sad and disgusting, actually. No matter how mad I get, I never say anything remotely hurtful towards him. He is big at judging, too. I bought a few clothes from Wal-Mart a few years ago and he told me not to tell anyone where I got them from. Are you serious? Sorry but I would rather buy some nice jeans for $20 that will last me years than buy Tommy Hilfiger (his jean of choice) jeans for $85 and have them die on me in a year or two. At least if my jeans rip or get damaged, they only cost $20 so who cares.

I wanted to get a Monroe (piercing) and he said if I did, he "wouldn't be attracted to me anymore" (people say this to someone they love? Wow...). Now I am not fond of blond hair at all but if he decided to dye his hair blond, I wouldn't give a shit because I love him, not his hair. If he wanted to pierce his face, I wouldn't care. Whatever things he chooses to do to himself or things that he chooses to like, I don't care because I support him, not knock him down for his interests. I wasn't dying for a Monroe, I just thought it looked pretty cool and when I used my eyeliner to draw a fake piercing to see what it looked like, it actually looked really good.

Well, sorry I ranted a bit here. I am not trying to take over your thread, I just hope it shows that your relationship is at least better than mine at the moment. I can't believe that someone who is supposed to love you no matter what just looks at you as being in the way of the internet. I don't care if he goes on the internet everyday for a few hours but he's on all day and all night and its hurting the relationship yet he doesn't care.

**McQueen** · 09-27-2008, 03:58 PM

The human side of FB, who knew.

**T-C** · 09-27-2008, 04:05 PM

*walks back out of thread*

**Da Villain** · 09-27-2008, 04:16 PM

FB just got me all depressed...i'm getting a beer...

JiGSaW · 09-27-2008, 04:24 PM

Maybe BreakTheWalls and ForumB!tch are the couple!!!