Originally Posted by ۩_JiGSaW_۩

Maybe BreakTheWalls and ForumB!tch are the couple!!!

Originally Posted by T-C

*walks back out of thread*

Originally Posted by Instant Classic™

Quiet Joblito fan.

Originally Posted by Forum B!tch

Wow, it's funny you mention this sort of situation because I've had things on my mind about my relationship. Sorry to hear about it. I hope my story here makes you at least feel a bit better.

I'm in a common law relationship. We've been together for 5 years. It's my first relationship. Things have been a bit rocky here and there. It's the usual relationship stuff but within the past year, I've started to get fed up with things.

We have no kids. We have two dogs and a cat, which are basically our kids, for now. To be blunt, we're basically on the bottom of his list of important things. The internet, sports and work come first on his list.

We work different shifts at the same place (different departments). I work 7AM-330PM and he works from 3PM-whenever they finish (usually around midnight) so on a daily basis, I see him for about 60 seconds in the morning when I am waking up to go to work and he is going to bed and when I am leaving to go home after work, I walk by and say bye to him. I call him every single day at the time he wakes up for work to say hi and see how he is doing. He sometimes calls in the evening to say hi.

When he gets home, he sits on the internet the entire time on all his sports websites. Fine, whatever, I'm sleeping anyways. Weekends, he makes absolutely NO EFFORT to spend much time together and actually DO SOMETHING. Sorry, I'm a fun person and don't enjoy sitting around here all day. I love to go out and have a great time. You only live once and I don't want to live on a couch. When I was on midnight shift last year during the last 4 months of the year, I changed my sleeping pattern on Fridays so I would come home in the morning from work and stay up all day so I could sleep Friday night and get up Saturday morning to ensure we could spend time together and do things like people in a normal relationship do. I would again sleep Saturday night and stay up until 4PM Sunday afternoon. I would them sleep until 10PM, get up and go to work, which started at 1130PM.

We both want kids (or so he says he wants some) yet he doesn't even make an effort to make kids because the fucking internet is obviously more important. Then, he'll be a moron and say "we did it the other day". Uh, yeah dummy, it usually takes more than one time to have a kid.

Anyways, I have a conversation with him...oh, about 15 minutes ago and tell him in a mature way exactly what is on my mind. He gets mad, as usual, because he can't take it when someone points out his faults. He went to bed at 730AM this morning and woke up at 3PM. That is fucking ridiculous. I told him that we pretty have don't have a relationship because he chooses other things over his family (myself and the pets) and he basically doesn't care. I can honestly tell you that if he was dealing with someone else, she would have left him years ago but I put up with a lot of shit because I love him and care a lot about him, regardless of the amount of tears he brings and the verbal crap he like to throw at me. I have anxiety disorder and he loves to throw that in my face a lot. I haven't had to take my pills for years and it was hard bringing myself to this point but he still likes to tell me "why don't you go take a pill you psycho" (so I guess you're a lunatic because you get panic attacks. Who knew?) He also doesn't help me with anything. He wont even fathom doing laundry, he'll leave his dishes all over the place when he could just take a second to open up the dishwasher and put it in, he wont vaccuum, if the garbage is full, he wont walk 15 steps around the corner in the hall to throw it out, he'll just get a grocery bag, which we are supposed to be using them to clean up after our dogs when we take them out, put the garbage in and leave it lying around. I lost count of how many times I've cleaned for 5-6 hours on a Sunday while he sits on his ass watching TV and on the net. Two people live here so both people should be doing something. I'm not his fucking slave.

I know it's hard to believe after reading all of that but he's a general nice person, he just has a short fuse and seems to forget what should be important to him. I ALWAYS put family first. He's obsessed with fucking yahoo fantasy sports and "studies" players all day long. I can't even talk to him about things because he gets upset and leaves for a while.

I just can't believe someone can say such things about their own family. It's pretty sad and disgusting, actually. No matter how mad I get, I never say anything remotely hurtful towards him. He is big at judging, too. I bought a few clothes from Wal-Mart a few years ago and he told me not to tell anyone where I got them from. Are you serious? Sorry but I would rather buy some nice jeans for $20 that will last me years than buy Tommy Hilfiger (his jean of choice) jeans for $85 and have them die on me in a year or two. At least if my jeans rip or get damaged, they only cost $20 so who cares.

I wanted to get a Monroe (piercing) and he said if I did, he "wouldn't be attracted to me anymore" (people say this to someone they love? Wow...). Now I am not fond of blond hair at all but if he decided to dye his hair blond, I wouldn't give a shit because I love him, not his hair. If he wanted to pierce his face, I wouldn't care. Whatever things he chooses to do to himself or things that he chooses to like, I don't care because I support him, not knock him down for his interests. I wasn't dying for a Monroe, I just thought it looked pretty cool and when I used my eyeliner to draw a fake piercing to see what it looked like, it actually looked really good.


Well, sorry I ranted a bit here. I am not trying to take over your thread, I just hope it shows that your relationship is at least better than mine at the moment. I can't believe that someone who is supposed to love you no matter what just looks at you as being in the way of the internet. I don't care if he goes on the internet everyday for a few hours but he's on all day and all night and its hurting the relationship yet he doesn't care.

Originally Posted by BreakTheWalls

Thank God.

Someone who's so desperate to look cool on a forum surely wouldn't have had anything even remotely substantial to say anyway.

Originally Posted by Forum B!tch

1) He's obsessed with fucking yahoo fantasy sports and "studies" players all day long.

2) Sorry but I would rather buy some nice jeans for $20 that will last me years than buy Tommy Hilfiger (his jean of choice) jeans for $85 and have them die on me in a year or two. At least if my jeans rip or get damaged, they only cost $20 so who cares

Originally Posted by Nitemare

This caught my eye though (probably because it's a fucking wall of text):
You're pathetic. Don't take this the wrong way, it's not meant to insult you in any way. It's just frustrating to me when men and women make excuses for their "loved ones" when, in reality, they don't and never would do the same for you. Your flaws will always be pointed out to you, he will always be mad when you point his flaws out; but there's a difference and that difference is control. He has no remorse for making you feel bad, and when you make him feel bad, I am almost one hundred per cent sure he reverses it on you, making you feel like shit for saying something 'negative' towards him.

I know people can change, but they first have to be people. And regardless of what you're thinking, I don't consider someone who doesn't show feelings towards another human being human.

The biggest problem with your 'husband' is that he is lazy and that will NEVER change. Sure, he may become less lazy, but when it coms down to it, I am going to assume he is young (around 25, I'd guess), and the fact of the matter is he would rather sit in front of a PC or television than go out. And hey, there is nothing wrong with that, except when you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to do that. Compromising is one of the biggest things in a relationship, and the fact that he's not willing to compromise anything just goes to show he doesn't care.

You should get rid of him as soon as you can. "I love him" is an invalid excuse to persecute yourself to a life of misery. It's also completely reasonable to assume you have become too attached to him because he is your first true relationship. It is not out of question that you have no idea what love is.

You should really just take a break from him, if at all possible. Maybe your parents will let you stay there for a little or perhaps a friend who is not unwilling to help another person out. Just take a break, see what he does. If his life doesn't change, which I fully expect it not to (though he would not doubt lie to you, to get you back; it's what control freaks do), then you know that you're in the wrong relationship.

HEY GOOD LUCK AND IF YOU STAY WITH HIM IT'S YOUR OWN STUPIDITY