Originally Posted by RVD_da_Man
Before i start this topic i just want to say this topic is about me asking for advice/help in the relationship i am in with a girl. So please don't try jokes or spam i want serious answers.
Anyway i am going out with a girl and she has a so called 'friend' who is a lad. These two seem very very close to each other and i mean close. Like i found out they both have a crush on each other. So anyway they are both close to each other and its really bothering me.
Sooo today i open my Myspace messages and find a message from my girlfriend , i then read it.
So i get this message off her today and now it makes me think is my relationship going to end now maybe my girlfriend is going to dump me for this guy. I really need some advice guys , she says she needs time to think so what should i do?
I really don't know what is going on now Help please guys.
I'm sorry to see you go through this unfortunate ordeal. I've spoken to you on MSN before and you seem like a nice guy and it sucks when these types of things happen to people that aren't the usual pricks.
From the sounds of it, what you are describing, there does appear to be some interest in that other guy on her end. I know it sucks, but it may just be leading to that, unfortunately.
I don't know how long the two of you have been together or how much you love her and vice versa, but if you really do have extreme feelings for her and don't want to let her go, then you have to try your best to talk to her about what you are feeling, get it out in the open. If you keep what you are feeling all booked up inside and closed out from her, she isn't going to realize what you are thinking and truly feeling about the situation.
From the message that she left, it does sound like she is having second thoughts about something. Whether it be about ending the relationship or not, I don't fully know. I haven't read the entire thread as of yet, but I think you should really consider sitting down and discussing this with her fully before she tries and tells you what's on her mind.
If after all of that she still decides she wants to end it, then she may just need some time to think. Some women, when they say that they need time to think, they may not actually be confused, but have some sort of alterior motive behind those seemingly innocent words. I'm not saying that's definitely the case here, but it possibly could be.
Or, if you want to get bold, you could always talk to this friend of her's and see what's going on. It might not work out well, but you may want to try every resource that you can if you really care for her.
Regardless of the outcome, I wish you the best and am sorry about your situation.
And then I read the rest of the thread.
I really am getting old