The thing is, a lot of pepole said "I would of helped"
"I had no idea" they did, but getting involved makes you a target
Beign gay makes it worse, I've heard of times where bully's really attempted, damned or even full out took off the guys balls\penis etc
And whats worse is if its forma young age, you start thinking there is something wrong with you, and while its getting better thats only happen recently and so there is some more guilt added with pain and Lord knows what else
you hear of the simple stuff, of "bullying" cause no one ever speaks of what happens
Maybe he could of done things, we dont know but I've met\seen kids who did these things and it only made it worse, there was no awnser
Here is an exsample, your in a gang, as a female only way to leave is to be gangrapped by evrey one or killed
what should the person do? (Keep in mind that there are gangs where you join cause of a oplder sibling and you had "no choice")
Thats just one exsample where if it came down to it, its quite possible the right answer sadly
as once again cops hardily can do anything, freinds are to scared to help, tyhere is not much teachers can do
and if you mange to get one of them to helpy ou the gang could kill you anyways
ts sort of like that but with out the gang, you NEVEr had a choice and its either take your beatings in till school is over (many kids have died form said beatings anyways) or make it worse, why assume these kids did not have it worse? notice how they NEVER tell you what the kid had to endure, or if they do the skip over it?
I'm not buying that any of the examples you provided involved innocent, wrong place wrong time type individuals.
A black kid growing up in a gang infested area and being out right told to pick a side or else happens all to often.
I was a white guy in a Mexican school with heavy ties to gangs in mexico, but it could just as easily been a white school with ties to enter gang here.
I also believe you're taking a lot of it out of context. Breaking fingers one by one is some mob type shit. There must be other factors that tied into it because MY experience with bullying has never gotten that extreme and the most common experiences most people have with bullies are name calling, threats of physical harm, knocking milk off lunch trays, stealing lunch money...that type of shit.
Your right that its "small" but its also a lot smaller the kids who kill them selfs after going through what you said, there are millions of kids bullied each year that way that survive, but most of those who do commit suicide form what i seen have it far worse, I do not denyt here are kids who do that, I'm not talking about them, I'm talking about the poor infested gang areas where shootings stabings etc are common and cops are uesless
It's a very small minority that goes through the extreme methods of bullying and at that point I'm willing to bet that the "bullies" in those cases aren't common, everyday school bullies rather they're likely gang members or straight up reckless, juvenile delinquents.
in the school I was at gangs where the bully so was the delinquents and THATS COMMON in many poor area schools, most bullies tend to travle in groups there and are gangs or should be anyways.
I'd also be interested in the location/settings of these more extreme cases. I can bet that odds are, they're in low income inner city type areas.
Yes, which means they cant afford to move, that type of thing is "accepted" (in the sense it happens all the time due to gang activity) so your choices are get another Gang to help, fight said gang by your self, tell a teacher etc all of which tick off the gang and make it far worse for you
this is just one even that happen to get attrition (for the wrong reassons)
this while more unique is what a lot of kids go through that people seem to not want to believe happens
Just read some of those fucking storys, there is FAR more fucked up stuff that NEVER gets told, becuse it only makes it worse
Bullying is far more then just the simple kid stuff that almost evrye one gose through many times, but most dont know this\dont want to belive it and thats part of the problem when they do tell someone they think "its not that bad suck it up move on" and the stuff keeps getting worse while evrey one thinks its just being picked on