What am I supposed to do, call the police? Be the white knight? I had an uncle get murdered for the same exact thing and since then was always taught to stay out of physical confrontations that don't involve me.
Murdered for what exactly?
Still, all I'm saying is that i've read enough stories to know that a lot of problems occur because someone didn't do something about it. As the saying goes, "Evil prevails when good people fail to act". Staying out of something because it doesn't involve you is just as cowardly as your so called example of bullying victim being afraid of the consequences. It means you're either afraid of the repercussions yourself, or you simply don't care what happens to someone as long as it's not you. If you were being beat down on the street and near death, would you not like someone to intervene and try to defend you and possibly save your life?
And it's far from despicable. I save this person this time but what happens next time, when I'm not around? From that point on, they'll expect someone to fight their battles for them and how does that help them "mentally"? It babies them, just like they parents do.
That depends on the circumstances. If it was an isolated incident were a kid for instance was being bullied in school and it was stopped, chances are that kid might be left alone. A lot of cases of bullying occur because a victim doesn't really have much support from their peers. They turn a blind eye to it, when in fact, supporting a fellow student by telling the bully to back off might be all that's needed. As for a bullying victim expecting someone to fight their own battles for them. Well that's not your concern, what matters is that you made a difference on that day.
As for your comment about "raising a kid" before making a comment: OPEN YOUR FUCKING EYES!!! Parents allow they children to waste time with technology and social media, instead of spending time with them and guiding them. Amanda Todd, how the hell did her naked pics pop up? Why the fuck is a 12 year old girl posting naked pics for anyway? Why is she having sex? And the same goes for the parents of the bully, who likely teach their child to engage in that type of behavior. I don't have to raise a kid to have common fucking sense that the whole bullying concept can be detoured by the parents, if they just wake the fuck up and quit letting Twitter & I Phones run their childs lives.
I agree a lot of parents do raise their kids by letting technology babysit them and it's the wrong way to raise a child. But at the same time, you're stereotyping. Not all kids are raised the way you think they are. Sure a kid who wasn't as fortunate to have all that stuff you listed could still be bullied. Poor kids get bullied as well you know. My point in the other post was to highlight the fact that not every kid is the same. A parent can only do so much to raise their kid, but in some cases it's not always the parents to blame.
When did I make an excuse for bullying? You right, bullying can be prevented, starting from the home. If parents implement the right train of thought in their children, maybe this shit would stop. But, me getting teary eyed or wanting to play Superman won't do a damn thing because bullying is bigger than me & you, it's what makes the world go around and it will never stop. And if it can, it certainly won't be media coverage or a bunch of protests to stop it. People don't never complain about bullying until somebody fucking dies. If the media coverage wasn't there, nobody would give a fuck. It's not raising awareness because no amount of media coverage can stop it.
Ok I agree for the most part with this. Nobody is expecting you or me to be a superman, and yes i'm aware bullying will most likely never stop. But having good principles helps in life too. If I can physically help someone, I would. I'm not going to turn a blind eye to something I can prevent. Stopping one act of bullying is better then not stopping anything, and just living life with this attitude that if it's not my problem then I don't have to do anything about it.
And that outside assistance should come from me? Or you? Or Joe down the street? No, it's the fucking parents job to teach their kid right from wrong. Not mine and not yours. But answer this, if it doesn't come from within or the parenting, then how the hell are we going to stop a global epidemic? Certainly not by talking about it.
Besides parents, authority figures are another solution as well. People who can physically prevent it, like students and peers. But that's what the BE A Star stuff is for right, to create awareness and to stand up to it.
The bolded part is exactly the problem. Too many excuses being made for the bullied and the bully. Let's not focus as much on the victim, as it's obvious that the actual bully is somewhat socially awkward and their actions can be a cry for attention.
True their are two sides to every coin. But at the same time, it's just a matter of circumstance. Either way I'm just saying, that in the case of some victims, it might not be so easy to say that the victim can physically do something about it himself, it depends on a person's personality.
It's more than doing your part in stopping it. I don't need that accomplishment to boost my self esteem. Like the old saying goes, I'd rather teach you to fish then to feed you. Because if I handle the situation for the victim, thats going to make them further depend on help and prevent them from being independent and resolving issues on their own.
What if the victim learned from it? What if the victim grew up. Maybe helping the victim out, might give the victim enough confidence to be able to do something about it in the future because you helped him. Maybe your actions were enough to motivate him, or maybe you gave him a bit of self esteem by teaching by example. There's also another saying "Teach by example".
Only way I've ever step in to prevent something is in the case of child abuse (did it before), boy's assaulting girls (did it before) spousal abuse (did it before), bullying of the disabled (did it before) and bullying of the elderly (did it before). But, as for a teenaged boy being bullied by another the same age, I'm not putting my neck on the line, as his parents should be more aware of the situation.
So you're a robin hood type figure eh? Take from the rich and give to the poor. Or in this case, help the unfortunate leave the not so unfortunate. The last line of this quote, doesn't really work IMO. Why is it only the parents problem when someone who is healthy enough, is getting bullied, but not so much when a disabled kid is? It's all the same thing really.
Case of Amanda Todd: If here parents were "properly" raising their child, she would have never fucked at that age, sent naked pictures and would still be alive. You can't expect a total stranger to take watch over your child because at that age, school & home is the only places you should be, unless with a relative/guardian. Don't see how you expect a bystander to step in and do what the parents should be doing. Because at the end of the day, it's their job, not mine. I'm not going to raise & teach the next person's child because their parents are completely void of what is happening in their childs life. Fuck Twitter, fuck phones, fuck texting and fuck television, SIT DOWN AND TALK WITH YOUR CHILDREN, NOT EXPECT OTHERS TOO AND MAYBE SITUATIONS LIKE THIS WILL STOP OCCURRING!!!
Amanda Todd was 15 right? did you ever do anything when you were 15 that you didn't want your parents to know about. People a naturally curious, and i'm not trying to make an excuse for her. But at 15, a teenager would be going through puberty. Whatever the reason she sent naked pictures, it's highly likely her parents didn't know about it. Is it their fault? Well I'd like to know more about the situation. She could have had great loving parents who just didn't know, and it wouldn't be their fault entirely. But whatever, there's already a thread or her so i'm not going to talk anymore about her here.